I’ve flinched many a times on hearing a male colleague remark ‘When rape is inevitable, just lay back and enjoy it’, to the say the least this remark is not only chauvinistic it is awfully insensitive. This remark is usually to imply that the boss gave them a hard time. Do these men even know the agony, humiliation and heartbreak a woman goes through during and after rape?
Last week I read an article in the newspaper about 2 teenage girls who were gang raped by 16 men. On hearing the commotion men working in the nearby field/construction site came running, instead of helping to rescue the girls, they also join in to rape them. If that was not enough one of the rapists was a friend of one of the girls.
A rape victim goes through severe trauma, in case the victim is a minor the whole family suffers. So then why do men so callously refer to rape? Is it considered macho? Would they still talk so flippantly if a close relative, say a sister or a daughter was raped?
Rape is generally defined as forced or nonconsensual sexual intercourse. Though a large chunk of rape victims are girl children and women, boys and men are also victims of rape. Rape is not necessarily about sex, it is about power and domination. A rapist uses force, or threat of violence, against the victim. It is physical and mental assault of the victim. It is not something to be joked about. The corporate world prides itself of being suave but the primal instinct still lurks deep within and manifests in such talk.